You should want someone who goes after you - not someone who plays hard to get. This means you shouldn’t worry about someone who’s giving you “mixed signals” or try to win anyone over. No means no.Īdvice writer Mark Manson has written an important piece called “ Fuck Yes Or No” - a vital rule of thumb that applies to all levels of the dating world, from flirting to sex to long-term relationships: If someone isn’t giving you an excited, eager “fuck yes!” then they’re giving you a “no.” There is no grey area - grey areas are “no.” The Victorian-era narrative that coy women say “no” until their suitors keep badgering them to “prove their affection” is a relic - an antiquated instruction for young, unmarried women.
